Activism, Reflection, Reflections, Uncategorized

When ‘Sending Love’ is not Enough: A Look into Dismantling Power Structures which Reinforce Hate, Violence & Exclusion.

So, I’ve decided once again to put pen to paper or more accurately finger to keypad to share my two pennies with you. Why? Because these things are important to me and I believe they will be to you to.

More specifically, I’m talking about the spiritual/wellness groups here and following reading this awesome article, as well as conversations both offline & online. However, this can and should be applied wider.

If you’re a healer, light worker & spiritual leader, and you’re spaces are not open to marginalised identities (including but not limited to: women, children, gender minorities, poc, LGBTQIA+, working class, carers, poor, homeless, refugees, asylum seekers etc), as in truly open, than willingly or unwillingly, you may well be upholding power structures which actively reinforce, and legitimise hate, violence and exclusion*. Really.

These inadequate power structures won’t just disappear by themselves and they definitely won’t by just ‘sending love’. Put simply, its very much ‘prayer without action is dead’, ‘deeds not words’, ‘be the change you wish to see’ etc.

I’m not saying don’t send love, please do. Whether you’re trained in an energy healing modality like Reiki or not, this IS powerful stuff and YOU can do it. I heal myself and others through it plenty personally. No, what I am saying is still do that. For your own benefit, and for the benefit of the planet. Really. Do this and also seek ways that you may be participating in upholding these corrupt power structures and seeks solutions within your capacity where possible.

For example:-

  • Are your spaces wheelchair accessible?
  • Could someone who was deaf attend?
  • Is it clear in your language that ‘all genders’ are welcome?
  • Can parents bring their children, is there a creche option?
  • Can you offer a sliding scale, solidarity tickets etc?
  • What other barriers might exist and how can you help, honestly?

Just showing you have thought about these things is a step in the right direction. Sometimes you do have to spell it out and say who you mean by ‘all welcome’ because people within marginalised groups may not assume that means them if they are typically excluded, underrepresented & misrepresented. I speak this from my own truth and from dear ones who feel similarly.

As healers, light workers & leaders, (which I believe we all are/have capacity to be in our myriad of ways) it is our role to include and love ALL beyond that just being for able bodied, cisgendered, middle class white people.

All means all.

If all lives matter to you, what are you doing to even the playing fields of power that exist in our world and that exclude many marginalised groups in our society?

I would also like to add that this is not about shaming anybody or ourselves but it is about calling out the internalised/external messages that have trained us to think of ‘other’ as lesser in any way. Find those messages and replace them with love within yourself, and then use that love to inform how that plays out externally, as in with others.

It is simple and I’d like to think that through regular practice of this we will gradually even out the playing fields. One step at a time. You can do this. I believe in you.

This is a channeled messaged that has been infused with Reiki and I truly hope it serves you well.

Did you find this useful? What works for you? Feel free to leave any questions, comments and share your thoughts & recommendations too!


Big love,

Em Desouza,

Expressive Arts Facilitator & Intuitive Energy Worker

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*Please do your own research on misrepresentation, mental health, hate crime & lack of support for these groups. Alternatively get in touch for my training fees, or I can pass you onto other practitioners/trainers if I can’t help.


Overcoming Judgement, Cultivating Love & Remembering Who We Are

We have been collectively fed so many lies about who we are, what we are here to do and what our true potential as humanity is.

Cultivate love within self, then share with other/s, rinse and repeat.

It seems simple and it is, well it should be. However, it isn’t always.

We have been predominantly programmed from a young age to be divisive, separate from one another, to compare ourselves to one another, to be self critical, to not feel good enough, to judge ourselves so harshly and then inadvertently do the same to others. Our results based & banking style educational system reinforces this sense of competition, better & worse than etc and so many continue on with this outdated model into our ‘adult’ & working lives. There is little room to breathe within this approach, never mind to express who you really are.


To work through this we must identify and remove these barriers to love of self and other, they are the same. This isn’t new, and pretty much every religion points in this direction but even there the message prone to being diluted by those in power and somehow confused with violence, hostility, war and hatred. So there’s a lot to work through but it really doesn’t matter who you are, it doesn’t matter where you come from, it doesn’t matter what religion or creed.

We can do this.

Dance your way through, feel your rhythm, express your truth, and release all that does not serve. In your way, in your time, and at your pace.


Big Love,

Em Desouza, Expressive Arts Facilitator & Intuitive Energy Worker

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If you liked this then you might like The Importance of Creativity & Self Expression for Survival.


Post-Colonial Ancestral Wounding, The Problem with ‘Not Seeing Race’ and Moving Forwards Collectively.

I’ve noticed that within the spiritual communities that I’m part of, there is often a lack of acknowledgement or understanding when it comes to the impact of colonisation & consequent ancestral wounding. So I’ve decided to share some of my thoughts, feelings and opinions on this based on my lived experience, learning & healing journey. Brave, I know but uncomfortable as this topic is I feel it is fundamental to mindfully explore this so that we can all move forwards.

Often within these groups, I’ve found some spiritual minded people will claim that ‘we are all one’ and that any talk of colonisation or race is purely divisive. Whilst I agree that we are all one race and that the notion of separating people by race is divisive, I also feel that it is a little too late for that following several centuries of colonisation by dominant cultures which was/is incredibly violent & cruel towards indigenous communities/cultures (in particular but not limited to poc) with long lasting damaging impact/trauma for generations.

This can’t just be forgotten or swept under the rug. If you’ve taken a peek by now you’ll see that our collective ‘shadow’ is actually overspilling with this and this is in some desperate need of healing. We are all affected by ancestral wounding by default of having been born at this time. It is everybody’s work to heal this, should you chose to.



The good news is that we can all heal this, collectively. Those with indigenous ancestry/heritage your role at this time is to heal, to be supported, to lead in this, use your voice to speak your truth, and to reclaim power. Remember your self love and self care are revolutionary acts.

Those without indigenous ancestry/heritage, your role in this is to be an ally as best you can. You have the power to listen, support and to stand by those who are healing from this with respect, understanding & love. Accept that you may not be included in some of these healing spaces and that is okay. You can chose to either uphold this system which is oppressive to so many or you can help dismantle it in this way or whichever way you choose. This will be healing for you too.

Here is a non-definitive list as a starting point for those ready to heal:-

  1. Acknowledge the atrocities & the impact of colonisation on yourself.
  2. Sit with the discomfort, it was/is horrific.
  3. Allow yourself to process grief, loss, anger. Utilise your own self-healing skills and/or reach out to practitioners who can support you in this.
  4. Gather with other likeminded folk, so you can heal together.
  5. Repeat affirmations that you find useful e.g. “I am worthy. I am loved. I belong” x3.
  6. Give yourself plenty of time & space. Rest. A lot.
  7. Be gentle with yourself.
  8. Do not judge another persons journey or healing process, just trust your own.
  9. There is no one way of doing this but the best way I feel, is led by love & compassion.
Please note: this work is best done supported by/with a practitioner you trust and within a supportive community.


So, this is by no means a one size fits all solution of a very complex topic, it is a healing process and this is just one way to begin. I have infused this message with Reiki and I truly hope it serves you well.

Did you find this useful? What works for you? Feel free to leave any questions, comments and share your thoughts & recommendations too!

Big Love,

Em Desouza, Creative Arts Practitioner

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